Being a single mom is one of the toughest jobs on the planet. It requires strength, patience, and endurance, but it also provides you with an opportunity to grow and become the best version of yourself. If you’re a single mom, it’s time to remind yourself that you’re not alone, and you have the power to navigate through this journey with grace and intention. In this blog post, I’ll help you explore 5 strategies to thrive as a single mom that I wish someone had given me. They can help you raise your tiny humans while igniting personal growth.
Embrace Imperfection: Learn from My Journey
Hey, let’s be real, nobody’s perfect, not even you. Being a single mom is full of challenges, and trust me, I’ve made my fair share of mistakes on this wild journey.
Imperfection is Beautiful
Picture this: I was a young and exhausted single mom at 19, working odd shifts just to make ends meet. One fateful day, after a particularly draining shift, I decided to experiment with a new recipe for dinner. Well, let’s just say it turned out to be an absolute disaster. I was disappointed, but you know what? My little girl either didn’t notice or pretended not to, because she’s just that sweet.
Embracing Mistakes and Learning from Them
I’ve learned that it’s totally okay to mess up sometimes. Embrace your imperfections and use them as stepping stones for growth. Remember, despite all your flaws, those little humans of yours love you endlessly. Your journey is a testament to the beauty of being imperfect. It’s been a solid 10 years since that “unforgettable” dinner incident, and we still laugh about it. My daughter even admits it wasn’t my finest culinary creation, but she liked it nonetheless. Because she knows that, normally, I’m a kitchen wizard.
Accept Help: My Tribe’s Support
Who says you have to do it all by yourself? Nope, that’s not the way. Letting your loved ones lend a hand can totally transform your life.
Building Your Support Network
Personally, I didn’t have my family to rely on when things got tough, so I had to get a little crafty. I built connections with my neighbors, got to know my daughter’s classmates and their parents. They became my tribe, my ultimate support system.
The Invaluable Role of Friends and Neighbors
As a hardworking single mom, their help meant the world to me. I could ask for a hand and offer mine in return when they needed it. So, when you find yourself in a bind, don’t hesitate to ask for some backup. No guilt trips allowed; your tribe is here for a reason. Trust me, I’m forever grateful to them for their role in raising my amazing daughter.
Prioritize Self-Care: Nurturing Your Soul
We all know how easy it is to put everyone else’s needs before our own, but trust me, that’s not gonna fly.
The Self-Care Dilemma
You can’t keep pouring from an empty cup, believe me, I’ve been there. Burnout city, population: me! So, if you want to be the best version of yourself for your little humans, make sure you prioritize self-care.
Finding Daily “Me-Time”
So here’s the deal, prioritize some time for yourself every day, no exceptions. Whip out your badass list of things that you want to do for yourself, whether it’s rocking your hair, giving those nails a fab paint job, indulging in a relaxing bath, getting lost in a good book, or taking a stroll. Whatever it is, make sure it really fuels your soul.
My Personal Meditation Journey
Personally, my anchor is my daily self-care routine. Oh, and let me tell you, meditation is my absolute favorite “me-time” activity lately. It clears my mind, sends anxiety packing, and kicks stress to the curb. I started using a free app called “fit-on” at the height of covid. It’s a beginner friendly with guided meditations for different times of the day. Since then I’ve expanded to a playlist on Spotify called “sound bath”. As of late when practicing meditation, my daughter asks ” Why are you having a mindful moment?” I tell her that I am aligning my feelings with the universe so I can understand what path to take next. Give it a go, you won’t regret it!
Set Boundaries: My Path to Balance
Life is all about balance Mama. Boundaries allow us to take care of our children without disregarding our own needs and desires. It’s time for you to draw your lines.
Befriending “No”
Saying no doesn’t make you selfish; it gives you the chance to focus on what matters the most to you. So, when someone’s asking for a favor, and your gut is screaming “no”, don’t be afraid to say it. No guilt trips allowed; just explain that you’ve got a lot on your plate right now. There are times when you may feel overwhelmed and think that you have to juggle everything at once to make others happy at the expense of your own happiness. But guess what? You don’t have to! I’ve been there, and let me tell you, setting boundaries is key. It’s totally fine to say ‘no’ and prioritize your own needs. In fact, you even need to set boundaries with yourself. Trust me, I made that mistake for the first 10 years of my daughter’s life.
Avoiding Burnout and Finding Balance
Consider this your official reminder to give yourself permission to slow down, take a break from the hustle, and enjoy some quality time with friends that doesn’t involve a playdate. And yes, you deserve to go on a date in search of romance too! By doing this, you’ll avoid burning out and have the energy to thrive. Remember, you were your own person before becoming a mom. Boundaries have been my secret sauce for finding balance.
Pursue Your Passions: Following My Dreams
Don’t let being a single mom stop you from pursuing your dreams! Take some time to reflect on what brings you joy. Is it writing, photography, drawing? Don’t be afraid to lean into your passions and explore that creative side of you. You’ll feel energized when you’re in pursuit of something meaningful.
Don’t Abandon Your Dreams
Doing what brings you joy not only helps you grow personally but also sets an example for your little ones. As a single mom, you can show your children how to persevere and find a purpose despite the circumstances. You get to prove that anything is possible!
My Entrepreneurial Journey as a Single Mom
Trust me, I’ve been on this entrepreneurial journey since 2018, and my daughter often catches me working on my computer. She peeks over my shoulder and asks, “Whatcha doin’… business stuff?” I always smile back at her because I know there are many single moms out there searching for their special sauce, and I’m here to help them.
In conclusion, navigating single motherhood while embarking on your personal growth journey is no walk in the park. However, as we’ve explored, it’s more than achievable. Remember to lean on your support network – they’re your tribe. Prioritize self-care to replenish your energy and clarity. Embrace the boundaries that encourage balance in your life. And above all, let your passion guide you, igniting a path of joy and fulfillment. You don’t have to sacrifice your hopes and dreams for motherhood. Instead, use your circumstances as a stepping stone towards growth, resilience, and empowerment. So, dear single momma, take a deep breath, trust yourself, and embark on this journey. You’ve got this! Remember, you’re not alone. There are countless others who have walked this path and succeeded, and you are no exception!
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